Modern Struggle

Perhaps you’re “doing” a lot and yet you still feel further and further behind..

Maybe your business hasn’t really grown in the last several months or the last year (or longer).

Like most entrepreneurs, you know that exercise and taking care of yourself means more energy, but you haven’t been to the gym or even exercised in months…there’s simply no time.

Not only do you feel tired and exhausted, but you’re not sleeping well…which only makes the problem worse.

Lack of real progress and always being “on” means that you’re putting in more and more hours at work or “in your business”, so you find yourself coming home later and later each night.

Your spouse has threatened to “get it figured out or I’m leaving”.. But how?

How do you spend quality time with your family AND thrive in your work AND stay healthy AND see friends AND have fun along the way? Not to mention traveling AND volunteering AND positively impacting the world around you (which is what many high caliber entrepreneurs and professionals want)..

I can tell you…You’re not alone.

A HUGE number of entrepreneurs, business owners and corporate professionals are struggling to bring all the pieces of life together now more than ever.

The truth is that…

The pace of life today is much FASTER than it used to be

And, one more inside secret…we’re just getting started. Life is going to continue to move faster going forward…

How do I know? Because all the data points to the exponential increases coming in innovation, information, and exponential change.

Fifty years ago, you could plan on showing up and you’d be ok. But starting in the 1990’s, we began to see changes in innovation that laid the groundwork for much different life, just 25 years later.

You remember the old saying, “80% of life is just showing up?” Well, that doesn’t work anymore. In fact, just showing up will pretty much guarantee you’ll be left behind.

Humans are required to do much more today than ever before. Here’s just a snapshot:

  • Process enormous amounts of information..
  • Juggle ever increasing email, text, skype, slack, FB, instagram, bills, news, school notices, …
  • Take action consistently…everyday, every month, every year
  • Act without any guarantee of a payoff..
  • Keep up or risk falling behind..
  • Make better decisions consistently..
  • Juggle more responsibilities than ever before..
  • Produce results or risk being passed over..
  • Change quickly if things aren’t working..
  • Fail and get up…over and over and over again..
  • Cultivate enough energy to keep up and recover quickly..

Most people grade themselves on their ability to keep up. They believe, if they can hammer at it long enough, they’ll be able to keep up. I call this SURVIVING.


Most people believe that if they had more willpower, or were more disciplined, they could achieve what they really want.

So, they work harder in their business or career, while postponing their health or family life or relationships. So, you launch a business and now no longer have time to eat healthy or make it to the gym. Or, your work responsibilities increase and now you find yourself stressed and getting angry and defensive with your partner or staff.

The hope is that everything will just work itself out and that they can fix their health or repair their relationships later…after what they’ve fought so hard for is reached.

Most people believe that once they get their financial life where they want it, then they’ll spend time <fill in the blank> (being happy, exercising, spending time with family, traveling, doing things they love, volunteering, etc)

Where did this way of thinking come from?

Society tells us if you want to succeed, you have to pour everything you have into your top priority (usually your career or your business). Devote all of yourself! Go all in! Get obsessed and don’t let anything get in your way! Power your way through! Go big or go home!

And, does it payoff?

Not really. Because it leaves a lot of dead bodies along the way (your health, your friendships, your spouse, your kids, your happiness, your faith) And, the truth is it’s actually the harder path in life.

This path is hard because it requires huge amounts of willpower and discipline to make work, which is why the people who choose it, must devote themselves to one area of life, because there simply isn’t enough willpower to go all the way around (every part of their life).

Then, before they know it, most of these same entrepreneurs, executives and business leaders find themselves in a place of trying to just “survive”…hoping that things will get better with more time.

How does the saying go?

If you keep doing the things you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting the things you’ve always gotten.

Or Albert Einstein, who said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.”

For the clients I’ve coached who wanted to THRIVE in life and positively impact the world, their answer was no, this path doesn’t work. They realized that while they might have succeeded in one or two areas, society’s approach causes damage to the rest of their life, which they’re now repairing.

Take it from someone who has pounded out success only to go back and pick up all the pieces, I will tell you it’s not worth it.

My goal for you is not to simply survive this season of your life (or life in general), but to really thrive in all areas of your life.

And, to do that, you’ll see that willpower is to be used in a specific way. It’s not meant to be used all the time for everything. There is a part of you that is 1000X stronger than willpower. More on that later..

Some may be thinking “Well, I can make it work.”

You could, but there is a serious cost.

As I write this, I’ve reminded of an analogy that I’d like to share..

Remember the story about the frog who’s in a pot of water and the heat keeps getting slowly turned up, until the frog is cooked to death?

Most people are living their life like that frog, not seeing that the temperature keeps getting hotter and that the best thing to do is to take a different approach to life (get out of the pot).

Small resistance equals Slow progress.

Big resistance equals complete lack of action


So, what’s the solution?

The truth is you really do know WHAT to do to get the results you want, and if you don’t, that’s the first step. The underlying truth is that you’re not doing what you know…you’re not programmed for action.

It turns out that the source of your results lies in a few switches and levers inside of you. Understand how to access them and control them and you hold the key to taking the right action, massive action, when you want. ACTION leads to PROGRESS and PROGRESS leads to achieving your Big Vision. (more on how stronger action means you accomplish your important work faster, which frees up more time for the rest of your life.

Learn how to do this in the next step, New Thinking

Want more research?

A recent report found that 61% of adults spend between 15-30 minutes eating dinner (many times away from family), while 85% are suffering some form of indigestion

In the same report, almost 80% admit to excessive alcohol consumption, while 62% have a reduced interest in sex.

  • More than half of respondents admitted to passing through red traffic lights to get to where they were going faster
  • 58% use their car for short journeys rather than walk to get there quicker.
  • 84% admitted to saving a few seconds by walking on moving escalators.
  • 70% of Americans said they disliked their job.
  • Nearly six out of ten people said they felt they were ‘missing out’ on something but did not know what.
  • Although six out of ten would secretly like to do “nothing” over the weekend, their spare time is actually filled with shopping, family, household chores or playing catch.

Study Conclusion – Impatience and anxiety or a wish to avoid even the slightest delay appeared as the major symptoms of modern living.


Americans who feel stress sometimes or frequently during their day is now 79%.

Americans cite lack of willpower as the biggest barrier to adopting healthier behavior. But, 70 percent believe that willpower is something they can learn or improve — IF they only had more money, energy or confidence in their ability to change.

Hmm, let’s look at that again. People believe willpower is their #1 barrier. And most believe it’s possible they can improve. But, in order to improve, they believe they need more money, energy or confidence in themselves. Do you see the circular thinking here?


74% of adults in the UK have felt so stressed at some point over the last year they said they were “unable to cope”. The survey – commissioned by the Mental Health Foundation – also found that almost a third of people (32%) had experienced suicidal thoughts or feelings because of stress.


The WHO (World Health Organization) reports that depression is now the leading cause of disability worldwide.

The UN (United Nations) reported that depression is ranked third in what the UN calls “global burden of disease”, which is the impact of a health problem as measured by financial cost, mortality, morbidity, or other indicators. It is often quantified in terms of quality-adjusted life years or disability-adjusted life years, both of which quantify the number of years lost due to disease. The UN projects depression to rank first by 2030.

Diagnosis of major depression has risen dramatically (by 33 percent) since 2013. This rate is rising even faster among millennials (up 47 percent) and adolescents (up 47 percent for boys and 65 percent for girls).


Modern life in America has led many people to eat more unhealthy foods, eat bigger food portions, and be less active. As a result, the number of Americans who are overweight or obese (very overweight) has been rising. About 1 in 3 American adults is now obese, and another 1 in 3 is overweight.


In the United States, during the period from 1999 through 2016, the total suicide rate has increased 28% from 10.5 to 13.4 per 100,000.

Suicide among youth 15-24 years old has tripled since 1950, making it the 2nd leading cause of death globally.

Learn how to take charge of your business and personal life by taking the next step, New Thinking